Life is too damn complicated sometimes… A thousand years ago a person focused on surviving and procreating. That was it, no complications! If it hurts you, you wouldn’t go near it. If it satisfied you, you would try to have it more. Just like that, simple!
Nowadays we make the most complex process ever in history, just to try and “survive” society. If someone says “yes” to something, you think “why did he/she said it”. But if you get “no” as the answer, you think You are the problem of everything…
I’m in the business of helping people create a fulfilled life and one of the key factors for it is understanding how to JUST SIMPLIFY your decision process. Hence, let me share with you this 3 steps to it all.
Here are 3 ways to make life easier to handle:
1.Choose the right people
Are you paying attention to the impact the people in your life have? Just because you like someone doesn’t mean they are good for you.
Likewise, there is no positive outcome in trying to make other people like you just for the sake of it. I would rather laugh out loud by myself then cry inside among others. What about you?
Here are a few good questions to understand if the people you spend your time with are the right kind of people to have around:
- When they contact you, do you feel anxious?
- When they are gone, do you feel relieved?
- When they are closer, do you feel stressed?
If you answer any (or all) of these questions yes, take them out of your life! “You don’t need everyone to love you, just a few good people!”
Don’t waste your time, energy and patience with those who don’t make you happier.
2.Take no “have to’s”
We spend our entire childhood following orders. We are told we “have to” a million times a day in every possible area of our lives.
- You “have to” be a nice person, make friends and share;
- You “have to” play in a clean way and color inside the lines;
- You “have to” take good grades and enter a nice school…
As we grow up, the “have to’s” become heavier and have create impact on life in general.
Society calls us adults, they say we must figure things out and be independent but they keep shoving “have to’s” in our lives.
- You “have to” get a good, stable, normal job;
- You “have to” marry, buy a house, get a car;
- You “have to” make some babies, work overtime, achieve success…
Aren’t you tired of guiding your life by someone else’s standard of what it should be?
All greatly happy people know to ignore every attempt the world makes to condition them to a certain type of life or behavior.
If you want to be truly happy, you “have to”… (just kidding 😉 )… YOU DON’T HAVE TO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
Everything in your life is your choice. There is no greater plan that requires you to be a certain type of person. And society can’t tell you what you need out of life (only you can figure that out).
Define what happy and successful means to you, what you need for it and how you can get it. Then, just act towards it. It’s as simple as that. The tricky part is reminding yourself of it!
3.Simplify your decisions
We get so caught up trying to understand why things happen; how was it possible; who decided it had to be that way… that we forget to just get over it.
One of the major accomplishments one can make regarding self-development is to know how to simplify.
Don’t you want your life to me lighter? Your path ahead to be brighter? Your mind to be clearer?
Find your purpose, create a vision of the life you want to live, understand the kind of person you want to be. Then, use it as a compass to your decisions.
Fire prof any decision by simply asking yourself: does this make me closer to my goal?
You can only change yourself and only you can truly know what is the right step to take. The next time you have to make a decision, remember that and be “simply happy”!